The Problem with the Way Women Speak

By Lara Devgan, MD, MPH | Published 10/10/2018 21

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Criticisms of my own voice have made me ponder on the perceived problem with the way women speak. What is there about the female voice that drives some to distraction?

Giving medical talks

I have given a number of medical talks over the years—reports on my research, reviews of surgical topics, mentoring speeches, and grand rounds, among others. I prepare for these talks extensively but tend to speak extemporaneously to engage better with my audience. I’m pleased to say that, in general, I have received good feedback.

Several times, however, I have been given the “constructive criticism” that my voice is “girly” or “immature.” I will be the first to admit that I am not an expert on oration or public speaking. I have no background in stage acting or performance. However, I did receive speech accolades in my youth.

The first was when I was in high school, I was the Lincoln-Douglas Debate state champion in California. Later, while in college, a friend and I won the Adams Cup for Parliamentary Debate at Yale. Despite this, I know very little about what the ideal speaking voice is supposed to sound like.

My focus for my medical talks is simple and content-based:

  • speak clearly
  • convey my message
  • use a voice that my audience will understand.

To be sure, I am a woman of petite stature and my speaking pitch is soprano to mezzo-soprano. I am also a fully grown adult with gray hair and a busy plastic surgery practice who has published and spoken extensively in my field.

Yet with recent media attention to the many perceived flaws with female voices, I cannot help but wonder about the extent to which this phenomenon applies to the world of science and medicine.

Upspeak, vocal fry, and other complaints about the way women speak

Women have been criticized for “upspeak”—using a voice that trails upward in pitch at the end of a sentence. This is a version of a “Valley Girl” lilt. It has been described by linguist Mark Liberman as a speech pattern that makes it sound like we are asking for permission or posing a question.

It sounds weak and lacks authority, we are told. Kelly Ripa is an example of a woman who frequently employs upspeak.

Conversely, women are also criticized for “vocal fry”. The is the use of a hoarse, low-pitched rumble that is commonly employed to add emphasis, depth, or satire to speech.

According to NPR On the Media host Bob Garfield, this sounds unrefined and lacks gravitas. He says it is “annoying,” “repulsive,” and “mindless.” Examples of vocal fry users include Tina Fey and Lindsay Lohan.

Interestingly, vocal fry has been described as “the opposite of upspeak” by The Daily Dot’s Amanda Marcotte. She argues that it conveys more authority than monotone speech because the voice takes on a lower pitch at the end of a sentence. Yet it is still derided as an irritating female speech affectation.

There is also a more general series of complaints about women’s voices that reverberates in the media. To wit:

  • Hillary Clinton’s voice is too “nagging” according to Fox News journalist Mark Rudov
  • Sarah Palin’s voice “causes ears to bleed” according to the Free Wood Post
  • Ann Coulter’s “whiny voice is so distracting” according to AOL TV reporter Jane Boursaw.

Politics aside, these complaints cross the aisle to suggest that there are very few pleasing and acceptable ways women can speak.

How are women supposed to speak?

Taken as a whole, criticisms of female voices of authority are difficult to make sense of. Women’s voices are derided for being high-pitched, low-pitched, varied, and, well, feminine. But ask yourself, how exactly are women in professional roles supposed to speak?

In medicine, public remarks are intended to educate and elucidate content-heavy material. Perhaps even more so than in other realms, the topics we discuss publicly are technical and complex, such as:

  • molecular biology,
  • anatomy,
  • pharmacology,
  • physiology,
  • pathology,

While speaking voices should certainly be clear, the societal trend of policing women’s voices distracts and detracts from this important subject matter.

There is no way to take the woman out of her own voice

There is no way to take the woman out of her own voice, nor should there be. Generally speaking, women have smaller vocal folds and laryngeal cavities than do men,

Therefore, it is unsurprising that the higher pitch and lower volume of female speech patterns reflect this. Also unsurprising is the female tendency to use forms of vocal inflection to vary oratory sounds, given that there is less possible volume variation.

The bottom line

This variance in women’s speech does not make it girly, immature, whiny, cloying, annoying, or otherwise objectionable. It simply makes it the way half of the population tends to vocally project. And in medicine, as in all fields, it makes it worth listening to. 

Initial publication date: 8/5/2015, reviews and republished: 10/10/18 [A version of this post appeared on The Doctor Blog on 07/31/15.] You can learn more about the author here:


Lara Devgan, MD, MPH


Dr. Lara Devgan, MD, MPH is a Yale-educated, Johns Hopkins-instructed, and Columbia/New York Presbyterian-trained board certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon. An attending plastic surgeon at Lenox Hill Hospital and Manhattan Eye, Ear & Throat Infirmary, she has spoken nationally and internationally on numerous plastic surgery topics. Her research and writing have been published in the New York Times, ABC News, and dozens of surgical publications. She is an editorial consultant for The Lancet, a peer reviewer for Aesthetic Surgery Journal, and a medical expert for ABC News.


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  • One more thing: These seem to be distinctly North American phenomena, and white North American phenomena at that. I watch a lot of British media, much of it pretty recent, and I have never heard Englishwomen speak like this. Nor can I recall meeting any black or Hispanic women who talk this way.

  • I agree with bliz and Buddy. Vocal fry sounds like nails on a chalkboard, and also sounds a bit robotic. And squeaky voices are just as irritating as any other high-pitched sound. Both are eerily devoid of genuine emotional expression and seem to fit with phony plastic personae. These are not the only options available for female speech, and it’s insulting to imply that they are. Greta Garbo, Lauren Bacall, Marlene Dietrich, Kathleen Turner, Julie Christie, Bette Midler, Ellen Degeneres–all of these women have been able to open their mouths without sounding ridiculous, and they all have different personalities, too.

    By the way, I have yet to meet a lesbian who uses a lot of uptalk or vocal fry.

  • No. It is avoidable. You dont have to speak like immature valley girls or use vocal fry monotone sarcasm. This is a cultural thing and choice that can be and should be managed better by women. Just like women and men can judge men for bro voice or mansplaining voices, women, too, should be called out for their annoying voices as well. I know plenty of intelligent and unintelligent women that just use their normal voice and personality rather than a generic valley girl or vocal fry problem. Doing it performatively as an entertainer, or between other women doing it too is different than women that talk like this all the time in life due their inability to control their voice and be mature and adaptable. IT’S POSSIBLE. IT EXISTS. TO JUST SAY “OH WELL, THIS ISN’T OUR PROBLEM. THIS IS NATURAL AND ANYONE CRITICIZING THESE VOICES ARE THE ONES WITH PROBLEM FOR BEING JUDGEMENTAL.” THAT SEEMS JUST FINE TO VALIDATE YOUR OWN LAZINESS IN SPEAKING NORMALLY AND DEFENSE MECHANISM TO JUSTIFY CONTINUUING TO SPEAK LIKE AN IDIOT, BUT IT’S YOUR PROBLEM AND EASILY CAN BE MANAGED JUST AS BROS THAT GROW UP WORKING IN BUSINESS OR WHATEVER HAVE TO DROP THEIR VOICE, OR STONERS, OR JOCKY MAINSPLAINERS BECOMING A NURSE OR HUSBAND TO A STRONG WOMEN THAT NEEDS TO EXPLAINING LOL. There’s all kinds of annoying voices out there that are entirely sociological and cultural, not natural. You have zero excuse. M’kay.

  • I feel strongly that women in the past did not speak with that girly chipmunk voice. People can learn to speak properly. Listen to how women sounded in film for decades. Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly’s voices are just two examples of beautiful voices. People sounded normal. There was no forced creaking. Young women today sound so terrible. It is terribly annoying and sounds so fake.

    • exactly…it is cultural….this writer is just devising excuses and defense for her own laziness and idiocy….everyone as they grow up lose their other voices–stoners, jocks, bros, a bostonite or southerner that’s moved and lived elsewhere into adulthood, tough guys, ghetto voice, slangs of all types, and even mel freaking gibson lol….on and on and on and on and on it goes for all adult working human beings to speak properly and change from their youth—except women apparently, …for them their voices no matter how annoying and improper is just simply nature, as everyone knows women have spoken this way since the beginning of times, and that the real problem is all these mean shallow ppl judging their annoying immature voices…ahhh, poor first world women problems…worlds smallest violin….

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